If you are reading any of my previous posts, you are seeing I am on this path of making things right and earning my Kitten back. The biggest step in that is, fixing me. So, if you are reading this, and you are on the same sort of path that I am on, here is what I have learned, in a short time.
- If you are being told by the person closest to you and loves that something is wrong, LISTEN! They aren’t telling you to piss you off, they want to see you be better.
- Not everyone is going to “trust” your change, right away. Remember that for that person or people, they may have had the promise of change given to them before by you, or others important in their life before you, only to be let down. It will make them question your change. So, it may take time for them to see you fixing your self.
- Set a goal, my goal is to earn the trust and love of my Kitten back. For me, that is all I need in life to be happy. I may have taken too long to realize, but I do. Set your goal, and do 1 or 2 things a day to move towards it.
- Find an outlet, for me it has been this blog. I am trying to respect Kitten’s space through this process. I am definitely a person who needs to talk and be vocal when things are hard. Kitten is normally my outlet, so now I am using this. Find your outlet, it helps relieve the stress.
- It’s ok to want to change and fix yourself for someone else, if they are worth it. You will be happier and healthier as well and fixing your problems. So why not let them be your motivation?
- You will have ups and downs. Alot. Sometimes a bunch in a day, then a few days you feel good, then it hits. Or you will see one positive result for your efforts, and then an hour later a negative result happens. Try and duplicate the good, and let them outweigh (even if emotionally, and not numerically) the negative.
- Give yourself a chance, don’t let a failure, or multiple failures result in thinking it won’t work. If your need to fix yourself is important, it is worth the fight.
- Not every change is ignored, even if it isn’t mentioned. The people around you may see it, they may notice it. But they, for their own reasons, may not mention it. That doesn’t mean that your efforts aren’t worth it.
- Scream at the sun or moon. Every once in a while just let it out. Sing a loud song, run, hike, shadow box or whatever it takes. Just unleash some of that stress, let it out so it isn’t pent up inside you.
- Look in the mirror everyday, if you don’t like the person looking back at you. Keep going until you do. You are worth it.
What are your tips? Leave a comment below. I would love to hear them.